One Last bye.......

 

"When we really care for a person, their mistakes never change our feelings, bcoz it's the mind that gets angry while the heart still loves them"

Even though the formal word had been given, things have been finished and Tarun and Anjali had departed, bringing an end to 3.5 years long relationship citing family reasons, incompatibility, misunderstandings, but something still was a miss, some questions were still left unanswered..............

Why is it necessary to say one LAST BYE before leaving forever, when we know that "Goodbyes are not forever. Goodbyes are not the end. They simply mean I'll miss you Until we meet again"........??????

Now and then, we have to close a chapter in our lives, or someone dear to us does it, and we have to say goodbye. Sometimes these conversations are short. Other times, they are long and full of intense feelings.

Saying goodbye allows us to put words to feelings and shape how we remember someone. In short, goodbyes give us a sense of closure, as we move into the next phases of our lives.

If we don’t get to say goodbye, resolution is harder to come by. We may never fully resolve the separation and be left with feelings of regret, anger, confusion and guilt. It can feel like the relationship almost never happened. When a good friend leaves without saying goodbye, we might wonder if they ever really cared about us and conclude that it wasn’t an important relationship after all. In other words, endings matter and are often what we remember.

Avoiding goodbyes also means that you probably avoid most of the hard feelings in your life. You’re only running away from the problem at that moment, but soon, your feelings will catch you with no options to escape. So why not deal with the emotions and say goodbye when you have to? It gives you a chance to say things you typically wouldn't and opens you to feedback you might not otherwise receive. 

So instead of pulling away from the emotional discomfort, face it. Move towards these conversations by having them early and often. Accept with open arms all of the feelings that get expressed. And say what you need to say.