Beauty And The Beast - Mystery Revealed

 

"Yaar kya kismat hai...Is langoor ke hath mein yeh angoor...Such a hot lady with this creep looking man...Kya ho gaya hai ladies ko aajkal...."

                              "Look at that couple man...How could she even tag along with this man...Am sure he would be filthy rich, or else why such a pretty lady be with this man"

                               "Bro, have you seen her partner...You look much better than him in all ways, go take a chance, am sure she won't be happy with him, may be got married in parental pressure.."

How often do we find ourselves making such statements at one point in life or often heard such whispers at every nook and corner around us in today's modern day world. The basic definition of perfect date still the same- "Tall, Dark, Handsome" guy...but do we see that in practical sense, anyone sticking by it? Then, why the trend reverses when it comes to getting married, when you can't have such a person as your date?

Feminists hold your horses, before you shoot me off for making such statements, more lies ahead.. Keep reading 😊 

Having travelled quite extensively around the globe for professional commitments, one thing that made me wonder during my travel was the existence of the beauty and the beast kind of couples, where one person is really good looking and other is just average or ugly looking person. And the first question that used to pop up in my mind was how the hell these both ended up being together?

It looks completely illogical for a good looking person to end up with not so good looking person. Means if you are a good looking person then there is nothing wrong with expecting equally good looking partner. But then in this world not everything is logical and then love is known to be illogical at most of the times :)

Love, love is known to be blind and I guess at times it is literally is blind. Means how else would you explain a good looking person falling in love with average looking person??? Well actually it's not about being blind but being able to see something beautiful in a person who doesn't look beautiful outside. After all at the end of the day nowhere it does say that beautiful people do come with beautiful heart and vice versa. It might help explain, for example, why Pretty Woman actress Julia Roberts found the somewhat facially-challenged Lyle Lovett alluring enough to marry. Or why balding, bearded author Salman Rushdie - no Adonis in anyone's book - managed to beguile the stunning model Padma Lakshmi.

Generally speaking less attractive men tend to develop different mechanisms to compensate for certain visual aspects: more finesse with words, moving with a certain coolness, more provocative body language, and better social mobility–among other things–can make them a good catch for some women. Over the different surveys, it has been concluded that, When beautiful women marry plain men, something magical happens: They're both happier. Why? Men place much value on beauty, while women want a husband who is supportive and positive. And the opposite is also true. Men who believe they are better looking than their wives tend to be more disgruntled and have more negative feelings about their marriage.

So the moral of the story, is that there is no guarantee that a good looking person will look good looking forever and therefore looks shall not be the major factor when deciding about with whom to tie knot with and we shall instead look for the hidden beauty of a person.

Sounds so goody good, no??? But this world is far bad an ass than that. You see more than looking for inner beauty, most of the people today while getting into relationship looks for future stability and overall future prospects than inner or outer beauty. You can call it flexibility, negotiation, or the wonderful phrase we human being have invented to hide the shame of doing it i.e. "being practical".

Yup being practical is the mantra of today's world. What the heck you gonna do with beauty if that can't feed you a mouth watering food or can't afford you the luxury of wearing Versace or Gucci :) And as weird the world is somehow all the average and ugly looking people somehow end up being much more financially stable than good looking people (particularly males - don't know why is it so, may be it's god's way to balance out things :).

And there comes the concept of trophy wife or trophy husband. In simple world it means that a successful person who otherwise looks ugly or average somehow lands a beautiful/handsome smoking hot partner. And remember this has nothing to do with love, it's all about money and the honey that follows it. (All feminist please note I am not accusing women of following money, even boys will do the same if given a chance :)

And this is the place from where the beauty and beast couples comes from. Cause at the end of the day it makes sense for both person. A beautiful person gets a partner who can provide financial safety and bright future prospects, while an average looking Joe well gets a beautiful partner and that well in theory shall make both happy.

So what does all these mean. Well in a way I haven't explored anything new but if I am asked to put this phenomena in single sentence I'll say:

"It is the heart that loves but it is the brain that lives the life"